How to handle conflict with children? If you want to make sure that you are not always fighting with your child, you have to have some coping strategies in place. It doesn’t matter if your child is misbehaving or just being difficult, it is your job as a parent to manage the situation effectively. Here are some ways for you to do that.
First, remember to remain calm. That can be very difficult when you have a screaming child near you, or you have a teenager saying things they shouldn’t be saying. However, realize that if you get upset too, you will not solve the problem.
Take a moment before you react and figure out what it is you are actually feeling. Your feelings may seem to be anger at first, for example, but they may actually be feelings about your own insecurities and fears. Process your true feelings before involving your child in your reaction to his behavior. Deal with your own underlying feelings before taking it out on your child and making the situation worse.
Remember that you are showing your child how to deal with negative emotions. If you start yelling anytime you become angry, can you expect your child to act differently? Instead, before you have any response to your child’s behavior, stop for minute and count five. When you do that you’ll be able to focus yourself on handling the situation in an effective way.
Manage the behavior by shifting perspective. Look at things honestly. When we have children, those children are people and they can make us sad, angry and frustrated the same as other people do. However, it’s important to remember that some behavior is just part of their childhood. It can be hard to keep things in perspective, but you have to realize that your child will act like a child and is your responsibility to guide your child toward behavior that is appropriate.
This is especially true of teenagers. Teenagers are supposed to test your limits and help and they’re supposed to learn about consequences. It is your job to make sure we help them to know the right behavior instead of acting emotionally and saying something you might regret.
Don’t worry so much about your child. This can seem like a crazy thing to say to a parent, but think about what you’re doing. When you worry about your children, you make them feel as if there is something wrong with them or that there something that they should be worried about. Your imagination can conjure up any number of negative situations for your child, but it’s important for you to remember that you need to deal with what is happening in the moment right now.In fact, imagine that things will go well for your child and him, and you will have less stress, and therefore be better able to handle his emotions and any behavior.
If you can simply learn to handle your children in the ways outlined in this article, you’ll find the new positive, calm attitude will be contagious. Your family is likely to be much happier if you take the reins and do it first yourself.